WHY do people have extra marital affairs? How does it happen? ?
June 30, 2010 by admin
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They have no morals and think they deserve it.
we weren’t born monogamous.
there not happy with there life’s or them self’s
Thou seeks azz and thoust findeth azz.
it is almost never a planned thing. But someone is reaching out, someone is lacking in thier relationship. All it takes is for another person to take the bait and then people converse and find common ground and it turns to attraction and then before you know it you are in a full emotional relationship that will eventually turn to intimacy, and before you know you have crossed the line.
that is how it happens.
You have an obsessive problem and I would suggest you seek some help but I would make sure you see a female therapist. There is too much of a risk that you will become obsessed again and then misread someone being helpful as being interested in something more.
Sometimes one or the other is unknowingly searching for something. An example: A man is married with 3 children, He has been married for 18 years. He has gotten pudgy around the middle and so has his wife.
Their lives consist of work, the children and things they need to do around the house. Sneakily a gap grows. They could be completely unaware of it.
Over a period of time a younger, fitter, available woman shows interest in the man. He feels the things he is missing and lacking in his marriage. He feel free, attractive and wanted.
There are some that they are incapable of being fateful. It isn’t so much the scenario I just laid out. They feel there might be something better out there for them. Even the thrill of doing something taboo. Each ideal is different as is each person reasons for cheating as well as not cheating.
People get married becuase they love someone. But even people who are the most faithful in their hearts, can mess up and have affairs. For example, especially if alcohol is involved a person can feel an attraction to another person besides their spouse. It doesn’t mean their spouse means any less to them. However, people are put here to have sex with more than one person, so we aren’t just attracted to our spouses, but also to other people. (I like the Disney verson of life better myself but what can we do). When people give into the attraction they feel for another person besides their spouse, affairs happen. If a person has an affair when they are sober, an affair that lasts many times, I cannot understand that person. However, not that this is right either, everyday good people can end up having one time affairs without meaning to because we weren’t put here to be with one person. We choose to be, becuase we have a higher level of intelligence than other animals, and form relationships with people of the opposite sex for other reasons that reproduction. Also, affairs can happen if people aren’t happy in their marriages, and are searching to get their needs met (sexual or non sexual) else wear.
There are so many answers for this question, but the best way to sum it up is affairs happen because that person is not happy.This is where it can branch off into many different reasons and become complicated. Sometimes, it just happens that the person they have an affair with gives them something that thier partner doesn’t, makes them feel good in a way that their partner doesn’t, allows them to avoid a responsability or dealing with something. Sometimes these people are just looking for validation in some way from the opposite sex. There are so many reasons. I don’t think most people go looking for it, but there are a small percentage that do. I learned a long time ago about cheaters, its not whats wrong with me that causes it, its whats wrong with them…and 99% of the time it’s a simple as just being unhappy.
Hello Careful,
Kind of tough one to answer. I do know that for guys the number one reason is not because they are just so physcically attracted to someone that they can’t help it. Men need to feel admired and know that their woman is interested in them. At the beginning of a relationship women usually act interested in everything about their boyfriend. They feel like their woman admires them. When that changes then they begin to feel dissatisfied which makes them more open to affairs and drifting apart.
Women need to feel appreciated. They like men noticing all the little things that they do each day. When their man pays attention to them and acknowledges when she does, a woman feels loved and secure. When they don’t feel appreciated, then women also may tend to look for that somewhere else – possible with another man.
I know this is oversimplified but the best I could do as a general answer.
Best wishes,
Diane
Maybe they are looking for excitement, maybe their partner bores them or they are feeling neglected. Maybe they are selfish. Only the cheater knows for sure..