Is It Safe To Make Your Move?
The ins and outs of getting into an affair centering on a game plan, reading the other person’s potential, reactions and knowing how to deal with a proposition you receive.
The kids are driving you crazy and your husband’s never around when you need him. What started out as a seemingly perfect marriage has turned into a life of frustration tension and loneliness. You’re sex life went down the drain months ago and you’ve been thinking about an affair so much that you’ve almost asked an acquaintance out for a drink. You know it’s not a drink that you really want but something much more. Since you’ve never done this before, you’re not quite sure how to handle it. What’s do you do?
It’s been a hard day and you’re sick of the hassles your boss gives you and the ones you know you’ll have as soon as you get home. You decide to delay the inevitable and stop at a pub on the way home and after a couple of beers you notice a cute brunette at the other end of the bar. Seems that she’s also noticed you and that little look she keeps giving you is an obvious signal. Now she’s walking over and opens with the line, “Had a tough day?” Bingo! After 30 minutes of conversation, she suggests you go to her place to “relax”. What do you do?
If an affair’s in the wind, it’s smart to think ahead and plan what needs to be done to have it go smoothly. This involves working out how you’ll make your affair as inconspicuous as possible, deciding who is and isn’t off limits and what you’ll do to really enjoy it. There are of course instances where the first fling comes out of nowhere and everything’s off the cuff. But for the purposes of this discussion let’s assume it’s all being done with careful thought and safety.
The physical set-up
1. Get your own safety deposit box.
2. Get your own Post Office box.
3. Get your own checking account (non-interest bearing).
4. Stop leaving your cell phone and papers lying around.
5. Take note of general routines you keep. You may do certain things without thought but your spouse knows what they are.
The mental set-up
1. Understand exactly why you’re doing what you are.
2. Work out the guilt up front.
3. Learn to keep your mouth shut.
4. Understand what makes you tick in general.
5. Learn to be even tempered.
