How long before I can be intimate with cheating husband who ended his 6 yr affair 2mo. ago?
We try to fix things, but I still think of him with her all this time! I do not know what will happen. Married for 22 years. Will I ever go beyond this?? Does anyone know the chance? My impression may be authorized for some time, but years from now, who knows?
Only you know IF and WHEN you will once again be able to be Intimate with your cheating husband…..Personally…I wouldn’t waste my time trying if I were you….6 frickin years with some wh*re??
wow why the hell are you with him?
No you will never get over it you will always have it on your mind. Why would you stay with someone who did that to you. You deserve better and there is better guys out there than what you got there at home.
you probably will always hate what he did, and it’s your choice to stay. But dang! 6years? That’s like a marriage in itself.
You probably will never get over it.
How long before I can be intimate with cheating husband who ended his 6 yr affair 2mo. ago?
UMMMMMM NEVER?
I give you props for even staying. My ex husband cheated on me once that I knew of at the time and I tryed to work it out I stayed for another year than I couldn’t deal with it and I ended things. Some people can handle it and others cannot. I wouldn’t ever sleep with a guy who had an affair for 6 yrs while he was suppose to be true to only me. I would boot him to the curb and move on.
I wish you the best of luck sweetie but honestly don’t be surprised if it happens again. even if it doesn’t the thought will always be in the back of your mind.
I can understand the pain, I personally feel if a person can maintain relationship such a long time, then he certainly cares for relationship,so u can rely upon him,give him a chance
“It is easy to break but difficult to fix” make him know your importance.Try to be his friend more than a wife,
certainly you make a good couple.
time heals alot of things. My sister went through this and it took a long time before she stopped envisioning her husband with that other woman…but it does get better over time. She has a very strong marriage now and her husband is a changed man because she believed the best in him after the affair was over, she forgave him and she never brought it up again, only in counseling did they talk about it. She also had a lot of people praying for them. Hang in there. He picked you to be with. It will get better.
my mom was married to someone who cheated on her in her bed she walked in on them she divorced him right away honestly im not sure why ur still with him it doesn’t matter how many years u have been married he obviously doesn’t love u really if he was cheating on u for 6 years thats crazy u’ll never get over it cuz its fucked up and u deserve better dont stay with him just cuz it feels comfortable cuz u’ve been with him for that long. and trust me i know how its hard to let go of someone and move on. I may be young but im wise for my age i’ve been told i’ve gone through a lot.
Just dont see how someone can go that long cheating and still look u in the eyes and kiss u and say i love u and all knowing they are doing something that horrible to you. Thats not real love and trust is a big thing relationships are built on trust if u can trust him then its not goin to work out and why would u trust him when he did something like that? he doesn’t deserve u!
You may never forgive the cheating completely. Some people are able to deal with it completely and go on like nothing happened and then some never do deal with it completely. Some couples end up divorcing because one person can’t forgive completely. I know that I could never forgive my husband if he cheated on me. You can forgive but you can never forget.
Well i honestly think the FIRST few years would be the hardest.
But if you think you’ll be fine then im going to assume you’ll be fine throughout the rest of the marriage.
I dont really see why women stay with men like this.
yes..you have been with eachother for 22 yrs but obviously that man has little respect for you and your marriage.
dump his cheating a**!!! why the crap are you both still together, i would have said SEE YA!
6 years, i hope you guys are in church and in counseling, she was so much a part of his life- how are you sure it is over? you can get past it if you are both commited to the Lord and in church, and he has really repented. He must have had feelings for her being 6 yrs., b-day gifts, the while 9 yards, I know it’s been 22 yrs for you but that was 6 yrs. of deceit. He needs to be 100% sure he is over those feelings. He owes it to you. The thing is this–she knows him well, she knows how to push his buttons, how to locate him if she wants to, that is why he has to change from within his heart. As time goes by say a year or two–you will feel stronger about it. NOW is the time to do something great for yourself, diet or whatever.
I’d give it a total of 8 months.
if u can’t forget about the past u r never going to be able to work things out so just let go of the past and work on your marriage !
6 years??? thats almost a wife and defeats the point of a gf.
thats a tough situation. a 1 time thing or even 3 months is one thing but damn, 6 years. you had no idea? i would say it needs to depend on how things go from here. he can wait more than two months for that. if you cant block it out its going to be very hard to deal with. seriously, good luck with that.
He had an affair for 6 years? With the same person? Thats a whole separate relationship. He was committed to another woman, with his body, heart and soul and lied to you and betrayed you for 6 years! Did he only end it because he was caught out? Is he sincerely remorseful? Do you trust him to be faithfull and honest with you in the future. These are the questions you should be asking yourself. He should consider himself lucky if you are EVER intimate with him again. You really should seek counselling. 6 year affair – my god – thats a deal breaker for sure – I could never forgive my partner for that much hurt.
You need to work through this, as in ‘you’ need to work through this.
1) you have been married 22 years and you are threatening this relationship
2) this affair was 6 years ago and you are still hung up on it
3) you are not being intimate with him but he has stayed with you.
Personally I think that he has ample reason to leave you, maybe you could have argued that you had reason to leave him six years ago, but you stayed, so you have no right to be putting anything on him now.
So, you have issues to work through on your own, and either give him the intimacy that marriage is meant to provide, or leave.
You have lost your trust and it is his fault. It might be possible to forgive him, but you will never forget that he broke it to begin with. As far as being intimate with him. Have both you and he been checked for possible HIV infections and or S T D’s? If there was a possibility that she was infected then he could have passed it on to you before you ever found out about his affair. Can you trust that he will never do it again? If you can’t say yes to these then you may as well end it now and save yourself the heart ache later. Trust is a terrible thing to lose!
6yrs???? what does this guy have that is so special that you would want to continue the marriage? How do you know that he just didn’t tell you that he ended it? did she die??
Iwouldn’tt trust him…EVER!!! youdon’tt need him like you think you do. Go out and start again without a lier and cheater…they are out there.
Good luck