7. Fatal Attractions

Where Affairs Go Wrong and How to Avoid Them. An overview of the different reasons that cause affairs to fizzle out.

Think about what you’ve gotten from your affair. It brings out the best of you sexually, releases tension and is exciting. Each time you meet, you know it’s going to be perfect. And therein lies the Achilles’ heel of most affairs. It’s almost impossible to keep up the passion and excitement. The affair that starts out so perfectly gets lost in the web of time. At some point the affair which began so perfectly, became normal and routine.

If you allow them to, affairs will have lives of their own. Keeping things in perspective and under control is critical. If you don’t, what transpires may be very different than what you had anticipated. Before getting into the affair it’s important to know why you’re doing it and how you expect the affair to run. Every detail must be pre-calculated or you risk discovery. If you lose control of the situation, you’re going to end up with some problems which may not be easily resolved.

There are also some questions you’d better keep asking yourself over and over. These include why you’re there and if you want to continue. If the answers start to get muddled, you need to step back and take a look at what you’re doing and why. The longer the affair runs, the harder it’s going to be to get out of it, and what started as pure enjoyment could very well turn into pure hell.

Let’s take a look at what can go wrong. Remember, it doesn’t have to be you that’s getting things mixed up. Your lover is human and is quite capable of having the same problems.

The best excuses why they can't leave their spouse for you!

1. The kids are too young. (be patient for 15 or so years till they grow-up.)

2. My mother is in poor health and the break-up would upset her too much. (doesn't she have medical insurance?)

3. My wife has a special birthday and I don't want to ruin it for her. (and this is only her 38th. Imagine how special her 40th is going to be!)

4. My husbands out of work and this will devastate him more. (he can always be a limo driver at our wedding.)

5. As soon as I get my next raise, I'll be able to afford it. (oops, I got the raise but my tax bracket went up.)

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