Affair Advice? Can you help me please?
June 2, 2010 by admin
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9 months ago, I slept with a guy I worked a night at random. It was great, we had some flirt a month or two. . 1 thing is that he has a girlfriend and a baby. I said, I will not let that happen again. . Four days later, he did. . . Now, nine months, we still see each other and sex is absolutely fantastic. When we started this, I was not interested in falling for someone as a purely sexual relationship does not suit me as I what I wanted without the drama of a relationship. . . But like most women I started to focus. I talked to him about this and he advised, it is my choice to continue, but he likes his girlf and could not leave his bébé.Selon him, he and his partners have not had sex since she had before the baby and if it was not me he slept with, it would eventually go with someone else. As he says “it makes me a better person for it.” . . . When I asked how he feels about me, he says he loves me as a person and whether he would différent.Alors simple things, he was honest with me, well then I think, but what im asking is can he really love his girlfriend as he says, if he has cheated in the past and now with me, the most important case, he avait.Je know it’s selfish but basically I want to be with him but I do not want to break a family. . . it happened to my parents if I know what it ressemble.T he like me because im giving him sex whenever he wants or should have sex with me because he loves me? When we’re together, he’s very passionate, always ensure that I am satisfied, I will always try to highlight and is always a great fan and friend that we usually have a good conversation, etc.. . We talk all the time online and txts, but no longer work together. . . Is this normal for people who have affairs? So. . . I’m falling for him, so basically I know I have to stop seeing him, but I do not want to because sex is so amazing and im not getting satisfaction from someone else, I am very confused and all the help and advice would be great. Thank you all for reading this. xxMerci Fancy. . . appreciate your honesty that I know about your experience hun:) I hope the two of us we soon sorted xComme I have no other sexual partners I hardly class prostitute myself around you thank you. . . in nine months, I went to see this guy, he is the only person I had sex avec.Je told him that I want to be with him, but I never ask him to leave his girlfriend and her child to me! If they break I never want it to be because of me if I’m not a bitch in the least im only in a delicate situation. . . . . . .
No, your situation is similar to mine except mine’s is longer. My ‘friend’ is the same with me as far as making sure I am satisfied. But during our 2 1/2 yrs, we started hanging out and going places and spending time together other than just sex. I promise you, you need to break it off, just like I do. I am extremely hurt by him for going back to her. Yours started out with her and doesn’t seem to be going anywhere. And if he’s cheating on her, you can bet that he will cheat on you if he was with you.
As I said in my question, after I spoke with him about the engagement and he stated that he wanted nothing to change between us, I felt sorry for his fiance because she knows nothing about me. But if she ever found out, she would be even more hurt and torn apart than I am. I will never date him because I am 100% sure he would have another me on the side. Get yourself out before your feelings become deeper. The longer you stay, the deeper your feelings become and the more difficult it is when it’s finally all over. She will eventually find out somehow.
Just keeping it real. Your a bitch. And I’m sure your a really nice person, but making one or two mistakes is one thing, but you obviously feel guilty for doing this to him and to his gf and his BABY! Yet you keep doing it.. And yeah, he might go off and do it with someone else, but he also might not. And you can get GREAT sex from another man. And of course you are starting to have feelings for him, sex does that to a person, as well as “you want what you can’t have”.
And if you want to know if he likes you or the sex, then stop having sex with him. If he starts having an affair with another person, then there is your answer, it was the sex. If he realizes it was you and not the sex, he will be honest with you and tell you how he feels.
Either way, you need to stop having sex with him. If that means being friends, great if you can keep your pants on. But if that means not talking to him.. then you need to cut it off.
And it sounds like the reason your doing this is because it happened to your family.
.Hope your not looking for sympathy.Whoring around and saying you don’t want to split this guy’s family up.When in fact,that’s exactly what you do want.His partner with his kid and you with the stud.Enjoy the sex by all means.That’s fine but at least be honest and don’t hurt a mom,child or anyone for your own selfish desires.
to much to read!!!!
too bad girls like you still exist
I think that he is more than likely using you for the sex because he isn’t getting it from his wife. It doesn’t look like he has actual plans for you to be in a relationship, so I wouldn’t count on that happening unless he leaves his wife. Just don’t do anything such as breaking up the family intentionally, just go with the flow and see what happens.
Hope I helped. Good luck. =)
Well I think you should try to work it out to your best ability. Umm It kinda seems like your blaming yourself, personally I dont think you should blame yourself…love happens in different ways